My husband thinks I am going crazy.
Well, the truth is, he is always catching me staring in the mirror, talking to myself.
On the surface, it may look like I am a little loony.
But talking to myself is actually my way of connecting with my innermost thoughts,
feelings, desires, needs and goals.
It’s a great way to work out problems and make plans.
Sometimes I act out solutions and scenarios.
I even give myself little pep talks in the mirror.
You go girl!
You can do it?
But most importantly, I talk to myself to help my to reinvent myself as I try
to make sense of the twists and turns of this journey that I travel: my life.
Who am I now–in this stage of my life?
There is so much going on in my life.
So much has changed.
How am I supposed to act, dress, talk, walk?
Who is that person I see in the mirror?
I no longer look like me.
Who am I supposed to be?
What do I really want?
Help me to “define the me that I should be today”?
Like a scene from a movie–sans the smoke and sound effects– the woman
in the mirror speaks to me.
She gets me.
We work it out.
In essence– if we let them–mirrors will reflect our true feelings back to us.
It’s a great way to encourage myself to stay on track and accomplish my goals.
Yes, my husband shakes his head and calls it talking to myself, but I have a better
name for what I do: positive self-talk.
Because “who I am” is constantly in motion, I use self-talk to connect with self and
reinvent myself–over and over again.
In short, I use it for good!
And you can too.
Taking Self Talk to Higher Level
To me, affirmations are another way of talking to yourself in the mirror.
In a way, they just take self talk to a higher, more constructive level.
Affirmations are essentially positive statements that re-program your mind for the positive.
The moment you have a self-defeating thought you’are able to counter the negative with a
An example of a positive affirmation is:
“I am worthy of great success,”
“I see myself in the winner’s circle.”
What this does is replace negativity with thoughts that will help you move toward your goals
instead of further away from them.
A Positive Way To Talk to Yourself
In time, you will find your own style, way to say them, timing etc, but here are some simple
tips for talking to yourself:
1. Start in the morning, as soon as you can after waking up.
2. This ensures you have a positive start to the day – that the first thing you start thinking about
are your goals and ambitious, and of course, that you are thinking positive thoughts.
3. Stand at a mirror and look at yourself as you talk, and look yourself in the eye.
4. Stand tall, relax your shoulders and stand with good posture – take a confident standing position.
5. Have your affirmations in front of you, written down or printed out – especially if it is a new set.
5. Say them one by one, in a slow, confident tone of voice – go down your affirmations list like
you mean it, like you believe it, and as if it is actually real or already happened.
6. Speaking slowly and confidently is important.
7. Pronounce each one properly and speak with meaning.
8. Say your affirmations in the present tense.
9. Say your affirmations 2x a day.
10. Say your second set as close as you can before going to bed.
This ensures that you have positive thoughts and goals in your mind as you go to sleep–
so these will seep into your subconscious mind and solidify as you sleep.
11. Remember to repeat them multiple times.
12. Most importantly, consistency is key, so creating a daily routine will really help.
Use Positive Self Talk to Achieve Your Goals
Do you feel like you are always talking yourself out of success?
As soon as you start to set goals for yourself, do you suddenly have nagging
thoughts about how you aren’t up to the task or how you simply aren’t qualified
to carry it through?
If you have ever experienced either situation, you need to change the way you
respond to your inner dialogue.
Instead of obeying your negative commands, you can use positive self-talk to
counter the negativity and overcome nearly all anxious thoughts.
In short, you can use positive self talk to tap into your personal power.
Set Goals and Stick to Them with Positive Self Talk
Are you initially filled with excitement when you first set goals for yourself?
Are these thoughts then followed by self-doubt and self-defeating thoughts that stop
you in your tracks before you even get started?
It can be difficult to make the most of your life when you are constantly talking yourself
out of being a success.
It can be frustrating and discouraging to have these thoughts constantly plaguing you.
Many of us, in fact, don’t even realize we have them!
All we know is that we don’t have the confidence to stick to our plans and reach our goals.
But there’s another way!
Positive self-talk is an effective way to set goals and ensure that you stick to them, even if
you have never been able to do this before.
The way this works is that you decide what goal is important to you, and then you
plan the logistics of how you are going to attain this goal.
When self-doubt starts kicking in, you will respond with affirmations that prove your success
without surrendering to the negative pressure.
Since you’re reading this article, it’s clear that you’re no quitter and you’re certainly not a
failure, so start believing in yourself!
Use Positive Self Talk to Be Your Best Self
Positive self-talk is easier to implement than you might think.
You may not be aware of the severity of the negative dialogue currently within your mind.
However, once you begin with positive self-talk, you will suddenly realize that you have
been self-sabotaging the goals you set for yourself from the minute that you make them.
This process can open your eyes to exactly how much this inner conversation has been
interfering with your life.
You’ll feel hopeful that you can now set goals and surpass them.
Through positive self-talk you will be able easily set long and short-term goals for yourself.
And when you use affirmations, you’ll have accessible tools to help you push yourself further
than ever before.
Learning to quiet negativity with positive thoughts is a great move toward setting and attaining
future goals with ease.
The Soul of Reinvention…
Believe me when I say that I am grateful for my moments with my mirror.
My moments with myself.
Sure, my husband calls me crazy for talking to myself–but I am unapologetic.
I am unashamed.
“Who I am” is constantly in motion, so I will always turn ‘into myself’ to connect with me and
reinvent me–over and over again, as needed.
In short, talking to myself is the “soul of my reinvention”.
Keep This in Mind
As Louise Hays teaches us:
“Every positive thought brings good into my life.
Every negative thought pushes good away.
I choose to think thoughts that create a positive
atmosphere in my mind, body and soul.”
“I am open and receptive to all the good and
abundance in the universe– and life will respond.
Each day brings wonderful new surprises.
My good comes from everywhere and everyone.”