It is virtually impossible to separate personal and professional lives, no matter how hard we try. A time of personal difficulty, such as going through a separation, often brings emotions to the surface which may not be suppressed in other areas of our life. This can result in difficulties which extend past the home, and into the workplace and social life. Obligations may not be met, which can expand the issue at hand. Here are a few ways to help you stay on top of your obligations when going through a personal trauma such as a separation.
Consult a Professional
Don’t be afraid to ask for professional help when going through a separation. A counselor or psychologist may be of great assistance while navigating through this difficult time. They can help put things into perspective and discuss how you can meet your obligations while taking time for yourself to recover. On a more practical side, consulting a divorce lawyer in Melbourne, even if divorce may not be on the table, is also a thing to consider. Having someone who can put your affairs in order will allow you to focus on other things. An added benefit, is that if divorce becomes a reality, you have someone who already is familiar with your case, and will make the transition a whole lot easier.
Ask for Help
This is a simple, yet underused point. Asking for help from friends and family does not mean that you are weak or unprofessional, and will benefit you by releasing the stress of having to pretend. Be honest with your loved ones, and allow them to support you; even in the smallest ways. If you need someone to pick up some groceries, or to pick up some items from your ex, there will be people willing to assist you. Don’t make the mistake of tackling this alone.
Keep a Diary
Keeping track of your obligations is a surefire way of staying on top of things. Having your tasks laid out visually makes it easier to identify clashes, which in turn provides opportunities for friends, family or colleagues to assist. Although this type of diary is not intended as a journal, writing down your thoughts and feelings may not be a bad idea either. Coming to terms and understanding your feelings is one of the stages of dealing with grief, and it is important to facilitate it. Writing down your feelings is a release, a vent of emotion that may be required in order to focus on other things throughout the day. Journaling is not for everyone, but it is definitely worth a try.
You may not get it right straight away. You may make mistakes, in fact it’s bound to happen; you’re only human after all. Don’t be afraid to make these mistakes, and remember to forgive yourself for them. You are a human, so not everything will go to plan. Things may get messy; just keep your head up through it. Don’t expect to be perfect, or to react perfectly. Remind yourself that you are a person going through a hard time. And although it does not define you, it does affect you. Be forgiving to yourself, and love yourself.
It’s never going to be easy, but take care of yourself during this time. Keep your head up and eyes forward. Good luck.
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